The Wonders of the Enveloping Hug
These things you can find out for yourselves as well, but sometimes all talking about them does is start new arguments. You can successfully managed your marriage for long happy years, but sometimes, when things gather up in a bad constellation, you may feel a wall has built up between the two of you, and all you can talk about is your discontent, while you feel your spouse doesn't listen. In times like these an outsider, who isn't caught up in your fight, might see from the start what both of you are disgruntled about, and help you understand it.
Admitting you need a specialist's help isn't a sign of weakness, it's a sing that you're aware of the problem, and you want to resolve it. These people have read hundreds of books about relationship difficulties, have met lots of couples with the same problems as yours, so they know what they're talking about. Trust them, but more importantly, trust each other to overcome these troublesome times, and with the help of your marital counselor, you will restore your relationship to its former happiness and intimacy.
When you think, "my husband doesn't love me anymore", I feel what you are going through. I had the same thing happen to me some time ago, and the pain never left... until I succeeded in making him love me again and saving our marriage. I experienced all emotions you must be going through now, so please bear with me as I explain what was it that saved my marriage.
Being full with the thoughts of "my husband doesn't love anymore", "my marriage is collapsing", "what will happen to the kids?", etc. rains down desperation on all of you - you get soaked in it. When you are desperate, you can't think very clearly. Yes, you want to save your marriage more than everything, and you would do everything to do this, but what? How? Saving your marriage from divorce requires careful thinking and planning. What was the fundamental issue that caused all of this? This whole thing might have sparked from a small and trivial matter quickly leading into a fight; but even in that case it's not the trivial thing that is ending your marriage - it's some much bigger, much deeper, more fundamental problem just being triggered by a small spark.
Admitting you need a specialist's help isn't a sign of weakness, it's a sing that you're aware of the problem, and you want to resolve it. These people have read hundreds of books about relationship difficulties, have met lots of couples with the same problems as yours, so they know what they're talking about. Trust them, but more importantly, trust each other to overcome these troublesome times, and with the help of your marital counselor, you will restore your relationship to its former happiness and intimacy.
When you think, "my husband doesn't love me anymore", I feel what you are going through. I had the same thing happen to me some time ago, and the pain never left... until I succeeded in making him love me again and saving our marriage. I experienced all emotions you must be going through now, so please bear with me as I explain what was it that saved my marriage.
Being full with the thoughts of "my husband doesn't love anymore", "my marriage is collapsing", "what will happen to the kids?", etc. rains down desperation on all of you - you get soaked in it. When you are desperate, you can't think very clearly. Yes, you want to save your marriage more than everything, and you would do everything to do this, but what? How? Saving your marriage from divorce requires careful thinking and planning. What was the fundamental issue that caused all of this? This whole thing might have sparked from a small and trivial matter quickly leading into a fight; but even in that case it's not the trivial thing that is ending your marriage - it's some much bigger, much deeper, more fundamental problem just being triggered by a small spark.
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